Say No to Meetings

Meetings (and conferences) are a waste of time and should be avoided.

In this day and age, there is nothing stopping you from connecting and working with whoever you want. All you need to do is identify those near you whom you want to work with and approach them with your plan. Sometimes they’ll say no, and that’s okay. They might be too busy, or have different goals than you. Keep the line of communication open with them anyway. They might come back to you later and want to work with you then.

Once you are working with someone, meetings are unnecessary. You can communicate quickly through email, texting, or through quick in-person discussions when you are at the same location. If you and them are dedicated to the work, no one needs to be inspired by what might be said at a meeting, everyone simply needs to be inspired by the work itself. If you need a vision statement to use as a handle to keep everyone on the same path, then create one, but don’t let it become more important than it needs to be.

Often people go to conferences and meetings to virtue signal their loyalty to the organization or to the leader. They listen to the leader with notepads at the ready like Kim Jong-un’s entourage of loyal courtiers pretending they’re hearing what’s being said for the first time. In reality, all the important things said at a meeting can be said in an email, and most of what’s said at a meeting need not be said at all.

Don’t go to conferences. Don’t do in-person meetings. Don’t do online meetings. Avoid these things as much as possible.

Related reading… Conferences are a Waste of Time

Visionary Leaders Vs. Masters Part One

A visionary leader focuses much on vision, mission, and passion. He wants to be an inspiration to his potential followers. He is big on teams and for the members of those teams to buy in heavily to his vision. For this reason he creates as many opportunities as he can to impart his vision to the team members. Team members are encouraged to lead themselves, and change themselves as needed to be effective team members. Those team members who do not sufficiently buy in to the vision become pariahs.

Aside from evoking passion in potential followers, the visionary leader does not have much to offer. He does not necessarily know the solutions to the problems his followers will face. Nor does he necessarily have access to the resources his followers will need. Rather, he encourages his followers to deal with those issues themselves.

As so much depends on the visionary leader’s public image for his success, those followers who are best at making him look good will be the followers most celebrated and promoted.

bsmithA master, however, does not concern himself too much with vision, or at least not in the same way as the visionary leader. He is on a mission, and he is passionate, but in order for him to lead, he doesn’t require his followers to focus so much on who he is or why he’s there. A master knows what needs to be done, he knows how to get it done, and he has access to all the resources needed to get it done. He knows all the problems his followers will face before they themselves ever encounter those problems, and he is there to provide teaching and guidance.

A master requires hard work and excellence from his followers. Those who do that will be promoted and celebrated. Those who do not become the pariahs. The motivation for the followers is not passion inspired by the leader, but rather passion inspired by the work itself, excellence, and an ever increasing growth in knowledge.

I suppose a good leader will have both a visionary side to him and a master side. But, from my experience, most leaders lean heavily towards one, depending on what field they’re working in. Visionary leaders tend to be found in the business world, or in Christian growth movements, whereas masters are found mainly in the trades. But there is no reason the master has to stay there.

Personally, I prefer to follow a master, and am trying to become one myself.

Read Part Two here; Part Three here; and Part Four here

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Platitudes Are Contagious: ‘Company Culture,’ Management Maxims, And Other Bullshit*

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Platitudes Are Contagious: ‘Company Culture,’ Management Maxims, And Other Bullsh*t

by K.S. Anthony

The power of working for a start-up used to lie in the entrepreneurial energy and enthusiasm generated by people who, having located a novel solution to a problem or need — whether in the form of an app, a product, a website, or a service––were willing to go all-in to bring that solution to market. Facebook’s “move fast and break things” motto was the battle-cry and unconventional thinking, acting, and doing was the hallmark of the “disrupters:” high-speed, low-drag rule-breakers who meant to kick down the cobwebbed doors of stagnant industries and rebuild them in their own images of efficacy and efficiency.

Somewhere along the line, however, that mindset began to dwindle and, if articles on LinkedIn and Medium are any barometer — and I’d argue that they are — was replaced with an insipid, empty brand of magical thinking that is two parts new age and one part conventional corporate America that manifests itself in trite and ultimately meaningless platitudes and jargon. The power of imagination has become conflated with the childish notion of “if we believe in it, then it’s real” and the aggression and fearlessness of those early rule-breakers has since dissipated. There are now countless numbers of start-ups that have adopted the worst parts of conventional companies: inventing language, conflating the synthetic with the organic, and generally becoming bloated, smug, and solipsistic while wearing those tendencies as a badge of honor, as if their cheap platitudes are their gift to the entrepreneurial eco-system.

But what do these platitudes look like? While it would be easy for me to scan LinkedIn or Medium for a selection of articles that prove my point, it would also be professionally disastrous. Entrepreneurs and CEOs aren’t known for their resilience or sense of humor in the face of criticism, perhaps because they haven’t developed any platitudes that can adequately prepare them, aside from Roosevelt’s “It is not the critic who counts…” or, more likely, writing off their critics as haters, losers, pessimists, or other unmutuals.

Here’s just a quick and dirty — and by no means complete — guide to the bullshit that Platitude-lovers are slinging. Consider these red flags.

• The word “hustle” in any context, unless referring to the disco era.

• The word “mindset,” when it comes to the necessity of changing yours.

• Appeals to authority: any invocation of qualities, habits, processes, or values possessed or practiced by leaders or managers.

• Analogies drawn between business and sports or warfare by non-athletes or non-warfighters… and sometimes even then.

• Discussions of paradigms, metaphorical boxes, or other attempts to illustrate Plato’s cave as applied to business.

• Anything having to do with time, whether managing it, saving it, or stretching it: especially when it’s one simple thing you can do

• Talk of “passion” in the workplace.

• Any top-down (and they’re all top-down) guide on how to build team cohesion or “company culture.”

• Anything that claims to be able to identify the characteristics of successful people.

• Writing that promises to redefine things which already have perfectly reasonable definitions, e.g.; “success.”

• Any article that tells you that changing your mindset/attitude/alarm/reading habits will somehow harness some type of latent superpower.

• Claims that the ‘universe’ has some vested interest in you, your company, or your business.

• Inventing new language for things that already exist: attempts to reimagine titles or spaces (including meetings).

• Anything that commands that you “dare to…”

Ever notice how everyone who challenges you to think differently sounds exactly alike? How they swap out one inane-sounding idea for another one?

That’s because platitudes are contagious. They spread easily, sharing the same power of memes, viral stories, and fake news: they’re consumable, easily adaptable, require no analysis or critical thinking, and confirm one’s biases. Self-contained, they eschew context. This is the same reason why quotes from famous leaders do so well as preludes to tedious articles. Quotes are not bad per se. They often express ideas elegantly, flavor a text with wit, or signal a theme that is to be developed. Unfortunately, with bad writing — texts that become strings of platitudes masquerading as intelligence —writers utilize quotes as a kind of literary forced teaming to prime the reader into thinking that what they’re consuming is the intellectual peer of, say, Churchill, Einstein, or Sun Tzu. Quotes also provide an instant relatability: they’re signifiers of shared cultural iconography — Oprah, Martin Luther King Jr., Gandhi — that rely on shallow understandings to create a false sense of intellectual depth and social connectivity. As Winston Churchill wryly pointed out — and yes, I’m aware of the irony here, but bear with me — “It is a good thing for an uneducated man to read books of quotations.”

Why is it good? Because quotes give the illusion of sophistication. One needn’t be Churchill or Wilde — or even have read them — to appear erudite behind a byline: one need only be able to copy, select, and paste.

This is worth a slight detour. Repurposed quotes, cut from their original contexts, become anchors for whatever bullshit people want to attach to them. For example, one popular quote by T.S. Eliot is “Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” Prima facie, it looks like a call to action, to daring, to “disrupting.” But what most people fail to realize is that it was written in 1931 as part of the introduction to an edition of Transit of Venus, a book of poems written by Harry Crosby, a Boston brahmin and nephew of J.P. Morgan whose excesses and predilection for self-destruction led him to kill himself in a suicide pact at the age of 31 with his 19-year-old married lover in 1929. The quote refers both to Crosby’s poetry and his suicidality. It does not refer to your start-up’s value system. It is not about what you can do to make your organization a top performer. It is not about you. Because the context is either forgotten or ignored, however, it becomes another piece of malignant business drivel with all the depth and wisdom of a bumper sticker or a novelty coffee mug.

Platitudes, whether in the form of recycled quotes, articles, linguistic inventions, asinine acronyms, or simple slogans, are a quick ticket to comfort and stagnancy, all the while masquerading as being edgy, novel, or disruptive when they are anything but. What’s more is that these platitudes, socialized as ‘content’ in the form of articles shared on sites like this one — which, for better or worse, often serves as a mutual admiration society for writers of varying, often dubious, talent levels — become reinforced as part of the business ecosystem. They multiply. They infect. The creators of these platitudes get positive reinforcement by recommendations, likes, shares, retweets, and followers. In turn, they return the favor… and the cycle continues. It’s as if the Dunning-Kruger effect — the tendency of the unskilled or unintelligent to think of themselves as highly skilled or exceptionally intelligent — has been weaponized with the power of social affirmation.

If it sounds like I am arguing against democratized content, it’s because I am. I do not for a moment believe that all ideas are created equal or that everyone has a talent for writing or leadership, just as I do not believe that everyone has a talent for singing, dancing, or silversmithing. The proliferation of platitudes are, to some degree, a symptom of a serious problem: they conflate the ability to generate and publish ideas with actually having good — or at least original — ideas. More over, they confuse cheerleading with leadership, tolerance with teamwork, and brand cults with culture. Writing these things down and pouring them into the world suggests an authority, part of the issue discussed in Tom Nichols’ excellent book The Death Of Expertise. These ideas, then, serve no real purpose except to sound authoritative, influential, and intelligent. By confidently assuming the role of guru/mentor/expert, the Platitude-lover teaches one lesson and one lesson only: strike a pose and the most susceptible people will believe it. La Rochefoucauld expressed a similar sentiment when he said,

“In all aspects of life, we take on a part and an appearance to seem to be what we wish to be — and thus the world is merely composed of actors.”

The issue here is that some people are really, really bad actors in roles that they’re simply not cut out for. They continue their act as they traipse about on stage, applauded by audiences who either don’t know any better or by actors who are just as bad as they are. None of this would be a problem were it not for the fact that they negatively influence the ratio of noise to signal in the world: they dilute the world of ideas.

The “move fast and break things” ethos has been replaced by contagious mediocre feel-good bullshit. The irony, of course, is that the people spouting these inane platitudes don’t see that they’re not disrupting anything. They don’t realize that they’re simply regurgitating cheap iterations of The Secret, listicles, and the tens of thousands of management manuals and self-help books that have littered bookstore best-seller and remainder aisles for as long as anyone can remember.

So what can you do to combat platitudes? Not much. If you’re a platitude-lover, you’re probably seething right now. Good. Let this be the kick in the ass you need. For everyone else… well, bad news. There’s no evidence that simplistic thinking — and writing — is going anywhere. Don’t let it pollute your psychological space or your social media: mute and unfollow all lovers of platitudes. If you encounter it in your workplace, ignore it if you can, tolerate it if you must. Remember, bullshit artists are exceptionally sensitive about their “work” and to call out challenge a platitude-lover’s ego might put end up branding you as a non-believer. In a world where more baffle with bullshit than dazzle with dexterity, the truth is a luxury that can only be enjoyed alone.

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8 Steps to Overcome Porn

Even though I am a Christian, when talking to men who masturbate and watch porn, I will not tell them to stop because God is mad at them. I will tell them to stop because masturbating and watching porn is for losers. If you’re married, why are you setting a real flesh and blood woman aside for your hand and a video screen? And if you’re single, why don’t you get married?

Anyway, here’s 8 steps (in no particular order) a man can follow to get off porn….

  1. The man must admit the problem and become aware of the patterns of the addictive habit. He must be honest with himself and with God. No hiding. When does he usually look at porn? How often? What triggers the desire? What thoughts run through his mind just prior to viewing porn? He must identify and define his addiction. He must know his enemy.
  2. Pray, fast, and pray some more. I’ve known several men, and I have my own personal experience with this, with various different addictions — smoking, drugs, porn, drinking — who, after struggling for years, suddenly knew one day that their addiction was gone. And it is somewhat of a mystery. “Why now? Why have I been struggling for so long, and why now am I suddenly free?” Obviously there is a spiritual battle going on, and we can’t see what’s going on behind the scenes — perhaps there are angels fighting demons, perhaps something else — but through prayer we participate in the battle. Prayer calls down the power of God against our enemies. The man must not quit his spiritual warfare when things are difficult, but rather, “Rejoice evermore. Pray with out ceasing. In every thing give thanks…” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18).
  3. Run. Paul instructs us in 1 Corinthians 6:18 to flee sexual immorality. There is no shame in fleeing an enemy the man can not possibly defeat all on his own. The man must flee the enemy and later fight the enemy from higher ground (in the prayer closet and in worship). In fleeing temptation, the man resists temptation, and in resisting temptation, the devil flees from him (James 4:7).
  4. Remove items of temptation. Maybe he needs to turn his computer around so that others can see what’s on the screen, or get out of the office and work in a more public space. Maybe he shouldn’t be alone for too long periods of time. He needs to keep his hands busy doing better things in his free time and when he might be alone — build a workshop, learn to weld, do some woodworking, learn an instrument, read more, write more, etc.
  5. He needs to tell others of his problem. Tell a counsellor, the pastor, his wife, his friends, his brother, and who ever else can help him. Sin thrives in the darkness but dies in the light. Hopefully he attends a church in which it is safe for him to confess his sin without being condemned. If not, he needs to find a biblical church.
  6. If he begins to look at porn, but does not follow through to climax, he needs to know that he can and should stop himself in the process. Just because he has begun doesn’t mean it is a lost cause to stop.
  7. If he does fall, he needs to have, what John Piper calls, gutsy guilt. “I [Piper] call it that because the believer admits that he has done wrong and that God is dealing roughly with him. But even in a condition of darkness and discipline, he will not surrender his hold on the truth that God is on his side.”* No hiding in the bushes when God comes asking where he is. He goes to God, admits what he has done, and submits to God’s discipline. This is the quickest path to restoration. The words of Micah 7:8-9 should be memorized by the man who falls into porn use: Rejoice not against me, O mine enemy: when I fall, I shall arise; when I sit in darkness, the Lord shall be a light unto me. I will bear the indignation of the Lord, because I have sinned against him, until he plead my cause, and execute judgment for me: he will bring me forth to the light, and I shall behold his righteousness. Psalm 51 fits well here also.
  8. The man needs to set up a structure in his life so that he can actively replace the bad habits with the new ones. He needs to order his ways before the LORD. This is where he can get help from a Christian counsellor who will give him homework assignments designed to create new patterns of habit. Counsellor and counselee can work together to list all the bad habits in the man’s life which lead to porn and what can be done to replace those habits with godly habits.

*How to Deal with the Guilt of Sexual Failure for the Glory of Christ and His Global Cause by John Piper

Recommended reading:

Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson

Fidelity: What it Means to Be a One-Woman Man by Douglas Wilson

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