Are You Projecting?

chickenhateyouI notice in my life that when things are going well, I am working hard, and my conscience is clear, I have no negative thoughts towards others. If other are doing well, I congratulate them, and if others are doing poorly, I try to offer help. But, when things are not so well for me, my attitude to others is opposite. Why is this?

In the opening chapters of the book of Revelation Jesus comes to evaluate seven churches. For most of the churches, He has some good things to say, and some bad things.  They are encouraged for what they are doing right, and are warned to fix what they’re doing wrong.

And this is the healthy way to deal with issues in your own life. Every once and awhile you need Jesus to come and evaluate your life, to tell you what’s good and what’s evil. And though it might hurt some, you need to fix what Jesus says needs fixing. Doing this is the quickest path to a clear conscience and joyful carefree living.

The unhealthy way to deal with your issues is to compare yourself to others and point out all their faults in order to make yourself feel better about your own faults. In the short term this way is easier. I can always find someone worse off than me and quickly justify my own actions in relation to theirs. “I thought I was bad, but look at that guy.” This is projection — calling out and hating in others what’s really going on in you.

Whenever I encounter someone complaining about another without offering any kind of solutions, over and over, month after month, year after year, I know that person is projecting. They are unwilling to deal with an issue in their own life and so they’ve found someone worse than themself to project onto, thus making themself feel better. “I don’t have to deal with my issues until that other guy, worse than me, deals with his issues.” In the long term, projection will only lead to emptiness, bitterness, and foolishness.

Let Jesus come and evaluate your life. And even though it may be difficult, change what He says needs changing. Trust that He has your best in mind. Ask Him for help because He won’t let you down.

Facebook Illusions

breakfast-club-social-mediaIt is interesting how different social media platforms are used for different things. And this seems to support Marshall McLuhan’s famous statement: “The medium is the message.” As I have written about before, every medium is created for a specific purpose, and no matter how that medium is used, that specific purpose will manifest itself.

Take Facebook. Facebook is a platform created for you to present yourself, in the best possible way, to people who know you. Unlike Twitter, where you present your opinions (usually anonymously) to people who don’t know you, and unlike Instagram where you present images to people who don’t know you, your Facebook page is directed at people who know you and who you want to impress in a way which is positive to yourself.

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But of course, your life is never perfect. Even when things are running quite well, your life most often falls short of your ideal expectations. But what do you present on Facebook? You present your life as though it always meets your ideal expectations. Therefore, your Facebook page is mostly deceptive.

And I often see this phenomenon with an organization’s Facebook page as well. Beware, when viewing a charity’s, or church’s, or missionary’s Facebook page. All may not be as it seems.

For example, I remember viewing a post by a missionary who had only recently begun working in Cambodia (which is where I live). The post consisted of several pictures of the missionary working with a western medical team. There was no written description of the post, only the photos. Anyone viewing the post would automatically assume that the medical team was there under the organization of the missionary, and sure enough, all the viewer comments proved that: “Great job!” … “You’re changing Cambodia!” … “Amazing team!”

Western medical teams don’t just partner with anybody. Those doctors are taking precious time off work and investing thousands of dollars into the trip. They don’t want their time wasted, and so will not partner with some new missionary who has only been on the field for a few months. So I was a little suspicious and I asked the missionary, “Was that your medical team?” No, of course it wasn’t. It was a team working with a well established organization, and the missionary had merely volunteered to help them for a day. But the Facebook photos made it look as though the missionary was running the show.

Maybe it’s not a big deal, and I just need to relax a bit. But this kind of stuff has always bothered me. I’ve seen it so many times that all the little examples build up and up into a big steaming pile of BS.

Perhaps I am just projecting here. How much of this am I guilty of myself? Would I even be able to see myself doing it?

As a Christian, one of the things I love most about Jesus is the fact that He is always sincere. Jesus will always present things as they truly are.

God is light and in Him is no darkness at all.

Stay true!

Related reading….

‘The Medium is the Message’

BS’rs vs Liars

Visionary Leaders Vs. Masters Part Two

lostThe inner crisis of a disintegrating society is constituted by the fact that too many people inside this society are not told what to do…
An unemployed man [or a hampered man] is a person who looks for orders and can’t find anybody to give him orders.*

I am a master electrician, although I haven’t worked in the trade for several years now. One thing about working in a trade is that once you’re past being a first year apprentice, your responsibilities on the job are no longer limited to the tool belt. You have to begin training the guys less experienced than you. And once you’re a journeyman, you’ll likely discover that most of your time on the job is teaching and supervising the apprentices.

The number one thing that will stop an apprentice from doing his work is a lack of knowing what to do. It won’t be laziness or apathy. He simply either was not given clear instructions, or he is too overwhelmed with the task before him. And once that happens, he’ll either stall out altogether or begin lying about what he’s actually doing.

I remember working for a company in which the boss (not a very good boss) left an apprentice to run a fairly large job. There were several different areas in one warehouse where electrical work needed to be done. The apprentice had the skills and knowledge to do every job, but he was struggling and falling behind. The boss sent me to help him get back on track. After walking through the job site with the apprentice to see where he was at, he said to me, “There is so much to do, and I just don’t know where to start.”

To remedy the situation, all I needed to do was lay out a systematic task list for him to follow: “Do that job first, because you’re going to need that powered up in order to do the next job. Do that other job next so that we can move this junk into that corner to have space to do the next thing. Next, do such and such…….” Once he knew what to do and in what order, he was back to working at his normal efficient speed.

Visionary leaders are rarely good at creating systematic task lists. Because their leadership style is so rooted in rhetoric, their connection with practical realities is severed. Visionary leaders are often throwing bricks in the air to build the second story of a building for which no proper foundation has been laid.

It is amazing what can be accomplished with mere rhetoric, and as I have written about before, visionary leaders are needed to inspire people at the beginning of a movement. But it is also amazing at how quickly the rhetoric can become completely meaningless. Some things sound good and wise when spoken, and they might even be true, but when you actually stop to ask what the thing said really means and how it applies to real day to day life, it proves to be completely worthless. And when I hear followers of visionary leaders parrot their slogans without thinking, like Winston in 1984 I get a little lonely and depressed.

When a visionary leader sees that his followers aren’t doing what he expects and hopes for them to do, he usually writes them off and says, “They just didn’t catch the vision.” And he might actually be correct, but does he ever ask why? Also, because his expectations are what they are, he usually is only followed by more future visionary leaders, which isn’t always desirable.

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Mark Aspery ~ Blacksmith

A master knows that when his followers are not living up to his expectations, it’s usually because he hasn’t clearly defined what needs to be done at ground level. He hasn’t laid out the systematic task list. He assumes his followers are already passionate about the work and striving to be masters themselves (otherwise they wouldn’t be there), so he doesn’t waste time using himself as an example to inspire them to work harder or embrace the vision. He knows the passion will come from the work itself when the followers know what to do.

I am currently learning the skills and techniques of blacksmithing. Now, you can’t honestly call yourself a blacksmith until you’ve learned how to forge your own tongs. My first attempts at forging tongs resulted in embarrassing monstrosities which I kept hidden from my family so they wouldn’t laugh at me. I watched how-to videos and looked at pictures of completed tongs, but I could not get them right.

IMG_2682It wasn’t until I bought a book in which a master laid out the forging process, step by step, systematically. “Measure this much here … isolate this much material there … hammer down to half the bar’s thickness here …” Only then was I able to forge the tongs, and they turned out quite well.

When a visionary leader is most needed and effective, the movement which he is leading is in such a state of rapid growth that no one cares if there is any systematic structure at all. The movement is riding on a wave of excitement, and for the time, that is sufficient. But that wave is temporary. The master needs to step in and create some proper systematic structure.

Now, when I say “systematic structure” I am not talking about creating a bureaucracy. I am a borderline anarchist, and I hate all unnecessary rules. But, it is a false dichotomy to say that you can either have structure or freedom.

A master is a master precisely because he knows how to create freedom in the boundaries of structure.

*Eugen Rosenstock-Huessy, The Origin of Speech, pg. 14-15

Read Part One here; Part Three here; and Part Four here

Also check out Infinite Regression,  Visionary Leaders, and Cut the Crap

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Visionary Leaders Vs. Masters Part One

A visionary leader focuses much on vision, mission, and passion. He wants to be an inspiration to his potential followers. He is big on teams and for the members of those teams to buy in heavily to his vision. For this reason he creates as many opportunities as he can to impart his vision to the team members. Team members are encouraged to lead themselves, and change themselves as needed to be effective team members. Those team members who do not sufficiently buy in to the vision become pariahs.

Aside from evoking passion in potential followers, the visionary leader does not have much to offer. He does not necessarily know the solutions to the problems his followers will face. Nor does he necessarily have access to the resources his followers will need. Rather, he encourages his followers to deal with those issues themselves.

As so much depends on the visionary leader’s public image for his success, those followers who are best at making him look good will be the followers most celebrated and promoted.

bsmithA master, however, does not concern himself too much with vision, or at least not in the same way as the visionary leader. He is on a mission, and he is passionate, but in order for him to lead, he doesn’t require his followers to focus so much on who he is or why he’s there. A master knows what needs to be done, he knows how to get it done, and he has access to all the resources needed to get it done. He knows all the problems his followers will face before they themselves ever encounter those problems, and he is there to provide teaching and guidance.

A master requires hard work and excellence from his followers. Those who do that will be promoted and celebrated. Those who do not become the pariahs. The motivation for the followers is not passion inspired by the leader, but rather passion inspired by the work itself, excellence, and an ever increasing growth in knowledge.

I suppose a good leader will have both a visionary side to him and a master side. But, from my experience, most leaders lean heavily towards one, depending on what field they’re working in. Visionary leaders tend to be found in the business world, or in Christian growth movements, whereas masters are found mainly in the trades. But there is no reason the master has to stay there.

Personally, I prefer to follow a master, and am trying to become one myself.

Read Part Two here; Part Three here; and Part Four here

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Platitudes Are Contagious: ‘Company Culture,’ Management Maxims, And Other Bullshit*

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Platitudes Are Contagious: ‘Company Culture,’ Management Maxims, And Other Bullsh*t

by K.S. Anthony

The power of working for a start-up used to lie in the entrepreneurial energy and enthusiasm generated by people who, having located a novel solution to a problem or need — whether in the form of an app, a product, a website, or a service––were willing to go all-in to bring that solution to market. Facebook’s “move fast and break things” motto was the battle-cry and unconventional thinking, acting, and doing was the hallmark of the “disrupters:” high-speed, low-drag rule-breakers who meant to kick down the cobwebbed doors of stagnant industries and rebuild them in their own images of efficacy and efficiency.

Somewhere along the line, however, that mindset began to dwindle and, if articles on LinkedIn and Medium are any barometer — and I’d argue that they are — was replaced with an insipid, empty brand of magical thinking that is two parts new age and one part conventional corporate America that manifests itself in trite and ultimately meaningless platitudes and jargon. The power of imagination has become conflated with the childish notion of “if we believe in it, then it’s real” and the aggression and fearlessness of those early rule-breakers has since dissipated. There are now countless numbers of start-ups that have adopted the worst parts of conventional companies: inventing language, conflating the synthetic with the organic, and generally becoming bloated, smug, and solipsistic while wearing those tendencies as a badge of honor, as if their cheap platitudes are their gift to the entrepreneurial eco-system.

But what do these platitudes look like? While it would be easy for me to scan LinkedIn or Medium for a selection of articles that prove my point, it would also be professionally disastrous. Entrepreneurs and CEOs aren’t known for their resilience or sense of humor in the face of criticism, perhaps because they haven’t developed any platitudes that can adequately prepare them, aside from Roosevelt’s “It is not the critic who counts…” or, more likely, writing off their critics as haters, losers, pessimists, or other unmutuals.

Here’s just a quick and dirty — and by no means complete — guide to the bullshit that Platitude-lovers are slinging. Consider these red flags.

• The word “hustle” in any context, unless referring to the disco era.

• The word “mindset,” when it comes to the necessity of changing yours.

• Appeals to authority: any invocation of qualities, habits, processes, or values possessed or practiced by leaders or managers.

• Analogies drawn between business and sports or warfare by non-athletes or non-warfighters… and sometimes even then.

• Discussions of paradigms, metaphorical boxes, or other attempts to illustrate Plato’s cave as applied to business.

• Anything having to do with time, whether managing it, saving it, or stretching it: especially when it’s one simple thing you can do

• Talk of “passion” in the workplace.

• Any top-down (and they’re all top-down) guide on how to build team cohesion or “company culture.”

• Anything that claims to be able to identify the characteristics of successful people.

• Writing that promises to redefine things which already have perfectly reasonable definitions, e.g.; “success.”

• Any article that tells you that changing your mindset/attitude/alarm/reading habits will somehow harness some type of latent superpower.

• Claims that the ‘universe’ has some vested interest in you, your company, or your business.

• Inventing new language for things that already exist: attempts to reimagine titles or spaces (including meetings).

• Anything that commands that you “dare to…”

Ever notice how everyone who challenges you to think differently sounds exactly alike? How they swap out one inane-sounding idea for another one?

That’s because platitudes are contagious. They spread easily, sharing the same power of memes, viral stories, and fake news: they’re consumable, easily adaptable, require no analysis or critical thinking, and confirm one’s biases. Self-contained, they eschew context. This is the same reason why quotes from famous leaders do so well as preludes to tedious articles. Quotes are not bad per se. They often express ideas elegantly, flavor a text with wit, or signal a theme that is to be developed. Unfortunately, with bad writing — texts that become strings of platitudes masquerading as intelligence —writers utilize quotes as a kind of literary forced teaming to prime the reader into thinking that what they’re consuming is the intellectual peer of, say, Churchill, Einstein, or Sun Tzu. Quotes also provide an instant relatability: they’re signifiers of shared cultural iconography — Oprah, Martin Luther King Jr., Gandhi — that rely on shallow understandings to create a false sense of intellectual depth and social connectivity. As Winston Churchill wryly pointed out — and yes, I’m aware of the irony here, but bear with me — “It is a good thing for an uneducated man to read books of quotations.”

Why is it good? Because quotes give the illusion of sophistication. One needn’t be Churchill or Wilde — or even have read them — to appear erudite behind a byline: one need only be able to copy, select, and paste.

This is worth a slight detour. Repurposed quotes, cut from their original contexts, become anchors for whatever bullshit people want to attach to them. For example, one popular quote by T.S. Eliot is “Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” Prima facie, it looks like a call to action, to daring, to “disrupting.” But what most people fail to realize is that it was written in 1931 as part of the introduction to an edition of Transit of Venus, a book of poems written by Harry Crosby, a Boston brahmin and nephew of J.P. Morgan whose excesses and predilection for self-destruction led him to kill himself in a suicide pact at the age of 31 with his 19-year-old married lover in 1929. The quote refers both to Crosby’s poetry and his suicidality. It does not refer to your start-up’s value system. It is not about what you can do to make your organization a top performer. It is not about you. Because the context is either forgotten or ignored, however, it becomes another piece of malignant business drivel with all the depth and wisdom of a bumper sticker or a novelty coffee mug.

Platitudes, whether in the form of recycled quotes, articles, linguistic inventions, asinine acronyms, or simple slogans, are a quick ticket to comfort and stagnancy, all the while masquerading as being edgy, novel, or disruptive when they are anything but. What’s more is that these platitudes, socialized as ‘content’ in the form of articles shared on sites like this one — which, for better or worse, often serves as a mutual admiration society for writers of varying, often dubious, talent levels — become reinforced as part of the business ecosystem. They multiply. They infect. The creators of these platitudes get positive reinforcement by recommendations, likes, shares, retweets, and followers. In turn, they return the favor… and the cycle continues. It’s as if the Dunning-Kruger effect — the tendency of the unskilled or unintelligent to think of themselves as highly skilled or exceptionally intelligent — has been weaponized with the power of social affirmation.

If it sounds like I am arguing against democratized content, it’s because I am. I do not for a moment believe that all ideas are created equal or that everyone has a talent for writing or leadership, just as I do not believe that everyone has a talent for singing, dancing, or silversmithing. The proliferation of platitudes are, to some degree, a symptom of a serious problem: they conflate the ability to generate and publish ideas with actually having good — or at least original — ideas. More over, they confuse cheerleading with leadership, tolerance with teamwork, and brand cults with culture. Writing these things down and pouring them into the world suggests an authority, part of the issue discussed in Tom Nichols’ excellent book The Death Of Expertise. These ideas, then, serve no real purpose except to sound authoritative, influential, and intelligent. By confidently assuming the role of guru/mentor/expert, the Platitude-lover teaches one lesson and one lesson only: strike a pose and the most susceptible people will believe it. La Rochefoucauld expressed a similar sentiment when he said,

“In all aspects of life, we take on a part and an appearance to seem to be what we wish to be — and thus the world is merely composed of actors.”

The issue here is that some people are really, really bad actors in roles that they’re simply not cut out for. They continue their act as they traipse about on stage, applauded by audiences who either don’t know any better or by actors who are just as bad as they are. None of this would be a problem were it not for the fact that they negatively influence the ratio of noise to signal in the world: they dilute the world of ideas.

The “move fast and break things” ethos has been replaced by contagious mediocre feel-good bullshit. The irony, of course, is that the people spouting these inane platitudes don’t see that they’re not disrupting anything. They don’t realize that they’re simply regurgitating cheap iterations of The Secret, listicles, and the tens of thousands of management manuals and self-help books that have littered bookstore best-seller and remainder aisles for as long as anyone can remember.

So what can you do to combat platitudes? Not much. If you’re a platitude-lover, you’re probably seething right now. Good. Let this be the kick in the ass you need. For everyone else… well, bad news. There’s no evidence that simplistic thinking — and writing — is going anywhere. Don’t let it pollute your psychological space or your social media: mute and unfollow all lovers of platitudes. If you encounter it in your workplace, ignore it if you can, tolerate it if you must. Remember, bullshit artists are exceptionally sensitive about their “work” and to call out challenge a platitude-lover’s ego might put end up branding you as a non-believer. In a world where more baffle with bullshit than dazzle with dexterity, the truth is a luxury that can only be enjoyed alone.

~from Linkedin