When you’re on a team you’ve got to show up for whatever the coach tells you to show up for. You’ve got to show up 100%, and you have to be enthusiastic about it. What the coach wants to teach you, you have to be eager to learn.
Teams are great for sports, and for groups of young people, who often need a coach in their lives to give them direction. However, when you’re a mature adult, teams just become an annoyance. Mature adults should form associations, not teams. (Although, a baseball team is pretty good.)
An association allows you to work with like minded people for a common goal while giving you the freedom to decide how exactly you will participate. You decide how you can and will benefit the association. You don’t need a coach to tell you what to do or what you need to know. This requires maturity, but mature people require associations, not teams.
Visionary leaders love teams, but masters form associations. Be a master.
Click here for my previous Visionary vs. Master articles.
There is no “I” in team. Yes, but there is a “me”. If you’re leading a team, no one cares about your passion except you. What does everyone else care about? Their own passions of course. Why would you expect anything different? Now, this isn’t a bad thing — in fact, just the opposite — if everyone is passionate about the same thing. You’d expect everyone on the same team to be passionate about the same thing. If everyone is passionate about different things, then that’s no team. If all the team has the same passion except one person, then that one person is in the wrong place. If you, as the team leader, are constantly struggling to get people to do their part, then you are in the wrong place.
On any sports team, every player is passionate about the game. Also, every player wants to be the star player. Every player is passionate about his own success. Sure, the coach has to be passionate too if he wants the players to listen to him, but each player will put his own passion before the coach’s passion. If the coach sees a player with no passion, that player is booted off the team.
I’m mostly repeating myself from what I’ve written in my other Visionaries vs Masters articles, but that’s okay. Nobody is reading this anyway.
If you want to lead, give your team what they want: the ability to satisfy their own passions. You don’t like their passions? Then why are they on your team?
Hopefully I’ve now used the word “passion” enough times to make you sick of it, as you should be.
Also, if you want to be a master, you should ditch the whole team model entirely.
One of my favourite series of articles I’ve written on this blog nobody reads is my Visionary Leaders Vs. Masters series.
I’ve decided to link all seven articles here for your reading enjoyment, even though I know no one is actually reading this and I am only writing to myself which is probably not very healthy mentally.
Healing or Terminating a Relationship
Relationships are rarely strife free. And when conflict enters a relationship it must be dealt with quickly and decisively for the continued health of the relationship. The two options for a broken relationship are: 1) Heal the relationship; 2) Terminate the relationship. Allowing the relationship to go on in its broken state is not an option.
How do you heal a relationship? You must confront the other. Passive aggressiveness solves nothing. Passive aggressive people will act as though they are the righteous ones as they avoid confrontation. They act as though they are the ones committed to the relationship. They will not be the ones to end a relationship. But truthfully, they don’t care about the relationship at all. They want the relationship to end. They don’t want to put in the work to heal it. And, when the relationship does end, they can take the high road and say, “Well, it wasn’t me who ended it.”
Confrontation always involves the risk of termination. Each time you confront someone you’re in relationship with, with the purpose of healing, you risk ending the relationship. And if that happens, so be it. Allowing the relationship to go on in its broken state is not an option.
How to confront? One way would be to write down all the actions of the other which are bothering you, and have the other write their own list as well. Then, sit down together and go through each other’s lists. Predetermine to not leave the room until you come to some solution. The solution might lead to the healing of the relationship, or the termination of it. If there is to be healing, both parties have to be willing to compromise. If one or both parties are unwilling to compromise, termination will be the result. If that happens, accept it and move on peacefully.
Also read In Relationship Part One; Two; Three; Four; Five; Six